I want to first bring to your attention that I myself am far from perfect…
BUT, It has become alarmingly evident that there is a major disconnect…
I hate to rain on some of you guys parades, but you may want to grab an umbrella or a poncho before reading this…
**pause to allow you time to prepare for this storm**
My aim here is not to hurt feeling or even start a GREAT DEBATE…
Ssssssoooooo without any further postponement…
I have been noticing a trend of "WOMEN" and I use the term "WOMEN" very loosely…
That have been saying things like:
"Chivalry is dead"
"Where are the REAL men?"
"I want a REAL nigga" (this one is hilarious)
"Men don't do the things they used too anymore"
All these things in MY OPINION are funny…
Ladies… honestly… I'm going to be completely candid here…..
MOST OF YOU don't deserve a "good man", "chivalrous man" nor a "gentleman"
WHY?!?! You all may be asking….
Because you aren't a "good woman"!!!!!
Why do you think you deserve something you yourself are NOT!!!!
You want a man with all these great characteristics, traits, and behaviors that you don't even possess!
In the days of old, where men were more chivalrous and respectful.
SO WERE WOMEN!
To court a woman was a special thing because you truly were investing in an ASSET…
A woman that most importantly RESPECTED THEMSELVES and their BODY first and foremost and even more importantly had a ACTIVE relationship with GOD…
A woman that possessed a certain set of TRADITIONAL skills and values that completed, fulfilled, supplemented and CONSUMMATED what the MAN was…
(EX.) Cooking, Cleaning, raising a child, washing clothes, knitting/sewing as well as being the secretary of the house, and a mans confidant.
These days if a man finds a woman, he has found: (Hopefully) a pretty face, a nice body (which most of you barely maintain), someone to have sex with (don't even get me started), and an ATTITUDE (that was created because of another mans failures, or an over elevated self worth)
These days you meet a woman if she can cook (BARELY), then she can't clean, AND I can't remember the last time i met a woman with ANY seamstress abilities...
Without the traditional roles of women, our forming and expanding societies would have surely collapsed.
Often these days women take offense at times when a man says "RAISING CHILDREN", but it honestly should never be taken offensively…
Why, because WOMEN are nurturing by their very nature! WHO CAN DENY THAT?
I do subsequently believe a man has an VERY important role in FATHERING a child…
Now in no way shape or form am I an advocate of the "bare foot and pregnant" thought processes of the past!!!!!
I enjoy the progression that women have made and respect the advantages of the "INDEPENDENT WOMAN"….
But!!!!
You want to know what the 2 MOST major difference between those days and these days are.
The first being, in past times women would go above and beyond to ensure that their man felt SPECIAL, or IMPORTANT…
What happened to that?
A woman that possessed a certain set of TRADITIONAL skills and values that completed, fulfilled, supplemented and CONSUMMATED what the MAN was…
Some where along the way women forgot how to make their man feel wanted….
Women would like a man to bring her flowers, buy her cards randomly, bears, take her shopping, just about anything to "EXPRESS" in a way other then just through words you care for them…
MEN NEED THAT SAME TYPE OF ATTENTION!
We may not want it expressed in the same way…
But we desire for a woman to express they appreciate the things we do for them…
So ladies figure out what your man likes and show him!
Humble yourselves!!!
If you are in a proper relationship it is just as much a blessing to you to have them, as you are a blessing to them…
Some women have lost sight of showing gratitude to their mates through simple gestures…
Secondly, what has happened to women's relationship with God?!?!?!
We have become so similar to "Sodom and Gomorra" it's actually repulsive…
I find myself on the different social media platforms and observe how almost demonic and crazy women seem these days.
Openly talking about sleeping with random men, cursing more then any sailor i know, self gratifying, lewd, openly talking about their sexual organs in ways women of our past would NEVER HAVE DONE, and destructive…
And whats so sickening is the GREATER the distance these woman are from moral, the more the world follows behind them.
Women will wake in the morning and praise and give honor to God, then moments later be posting ignorance…
The very first thing a lot of you need to find is HUMILITY..
What happened to gratitude?
What happened to when a man was chivalrous and the woman would show gratitude to him being so…
In this day and age if a man does open a door for a young lady she just STROLLS right in without a thank you or even recognizing the fact that he took a few seconds out of his day to offer her a convenience… (should have slammed it in your FACE!!!)
Women have become so STRONG they have forgot to show appreciation for the chivalrous things a man does, mostly because so many have adopted the concept:
"I DON'T NEED A MAN FOR ANYTHING, I CAN DO IT FOR MYSELF"
And thats all well and good…
But just like women have the innate ability to NURTURE men are born with the same innate ability to be NEEDED so they can in turn supply.
Thus the reason while CHIVALRY even existed in the first place!!!!!
Do you know where CHIVALRY came from? (RESEARCH IT)
It was a medieval KNIGHTLY system with religious, moral, and social code.
Which is where the saying "looking for their KNIGHT in shining armor" came from!
Women have always had the ability to open their own doors, pull out their own chairs, pump their own gas and walk around puddles.
It's about being appreciative enough to realize that a man recognizes your strength, but still desires to go out of his way to make the simple things even easier for you...
When you take away a mans "ABILITY" to supply "NEEDS", you EMASCULATE him.
emasculate |iˈmaskyəˌlāt|verb [ with obj. ]make (a person, idea, or piece of legislation) weaker or less effective
• (usu. as adj. emasculated) deprive (a man) of his male role or identity
No man can love a woman that openly attempts to take his manhood from him...
Once that line is crossed you lose us...
In this world of educated women…
You ladies are really making some very uneducated decisions!
Women have created this imaginary balance of negative and positive traits they want in a man.
It's like they want a man to disrespect them respectfully.. (O_o)
They want a:
• (usu. as adj. emasculated) deprive (a man) of his male role or identity
- Thug with good manners
- A gentleman with a dark side
- a man that looks like he would beat the brakes off her but never touches her
- an educated man that talks like he has no sense
Us men don't know how to keep up with this imaginary Balance of two entirely different worlds!!!!
not both worlds!!!
Women are so confused into what they want, they are confusing us!
How are we to be exactly what you want if you don't even know exactly what you want?
Communication and conflict resolution!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i could write an entire BOOK on this section…
Women learn how to convey ideas and not emotion…
you get so consumed in the feeling, the actual problem falls to the wayside…
Now i understand your emotional beings…
but learn to TALK THRU your issues, not ACT THRU them…
There is a huge misconception that whining is communication.
Whining doesn't solve issues…
They say they want a good man with their mouths, but with actions are continuously picking men with horrible characteristics!
What so saddening, is a man with good characteristics, respectful, virtuous and honorable...
Is looked at NEGATIVELY!
what type of sick twisted world do we live in, where man with good characteristics are looked at in a derogatory manner?
You are called:
"Soft"
"lame"
Are are we drawn that far from reality where negativity has become a positive and positivety he has become a negative?
You either get one or the other!!!True communication solves problems.
True communication comes to agreements and compromises...
True communication is not demeaning our destructive, it's constructive.
Just because you frequently open your mouth and words come out, doesn't mean your communicating...
The most important part of communication that you ladies are missing... LISTENING!
I mean honestly listening and taking heed to our concerns and request...
Most men will tell you that we don't talk not because we don't have anything to say, but because we feel we say falls on deaf ears.
So we would rather say nothing, then waste our time telling you how we feel and you not listen.
And men hate it when we tell you EXACTLY how we feel and you try to tell us how we feel right after we just told you how we feel!
Why ask questions if your not going to believe US!
Next once we have moved past something…
STOP bringing it back up!!!!
STOP revisiting it!!!
STOP throwing it back up in our faces.
Lastly!
If we take the time to tell you how we feel…
Don't take this opportunity to turn it into an argument!
Communication and sharing his feelings is a vulnerable spot for men!
So when we are being vulnerable to you, don't catch an attitude and start an argument over how we may feel!
That makes us not want to be open with you anymore…
Learn to be RECEPTIVE!!!
This is why we don't like to share anything with you ladies…
Ladies the attitudes…
Are cute at first, but sometime you take it too damn far…
The unnecessary smart comments!
Being destructive with your words…
Learn to APOLOGIZE when you do something wrong!!!
An apology goes a long way…
It helps us recognize that you recognize you did something wrong to us and you are actually CARE enough to say your sorry!!!!
A simple "Baby I'm sorry" means the world to your man…
And I can almost guarantee you that he will respond with "Oh baby it's fine" but deep down inside that simple gesture puts him at piece…
Because some women like to act like they are faultless, like they do no wrong.
And that is highly irritating!!!
Lastly here, women you desire us to pursue you….
Lastly here, women you desire us to pursue you….
And that's all fine and well…
But some have pursuit confused with an all out triathlon…
a union should be created though mutual work and effort!
No one person should be putting in more then their share of work….
When you make a man jump thru hoops and don't jump thru a few yourselves your making for an unequally yolked relationship…
which is going to bound to fail, because someone is going to get tired of feeling as though they are working by themselves!
Yes sir we as women set the standard. You will get what you accept. We will either lesrn this the hard way or take wisdom from a sister that has been there and done that. Know your worth Ladies and Gentlemen, you will attract just that...Peace Gabby
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